So you’re on the prowl yet again to meet and fuck someone tonight. Maybe it hasn’t been working out this past couple of weekends, and you’ve ended up at home, alone, settling for masturbation.
While pleasuring yourself is cool and an important part of exploring your sexuality, it only gets the job done for so long. Which is why you need these 9 tips to get yourself a hookup the next time you go out!
1. Use a hookup app
Hookup apps come in handy for when you’re looking for someone you can hook up with for fun, and with the number of users on each of these apps, your chances are super high. Depending on your taste, there’s a hookup app tailored for you.
Kink hookup apps like Whiplr and KinkD exist to help you find like-minded individuals with your same kinks or new one to have the best hookup experience of your life. If you’re looking for some adventure by having a threesome, there’s even an app for that — 3nder matches you with either singles or couples who are looking for some 3-way fun. More traditional hookup apps where you can find anyone that interests you, like MeetBang, are also available.
2. Look the part
So obviously you have to take a bit of time if you plan on going out to make yourself look good.
Appearance matters, especially to girls who are out and considering hooking up with a guy that night. If you’re out and you look like you just threw on a shirt out of the dirty laundry, some raggedy jeans, and shoes, and barely even touched your hair, you’re bound to lose your chance to someone who did take time to look good. It’s a harsh reality that the way you look matters, especially to someone that might have sex with you.
Ladies, same rules apply in most cases.
So before you head out, spend at least an hour showering (and showering well), fixing up your hair, grooming yourself, makeup if you wear it, and pick out some nice clothes. Maybe even throw on a lil’ cologne or perfume, but not too much and none of that cheap, disgusting AXE spray or Victoria’s Secret body sprays. If you didn’t learn this after middle school yet, no girl likes the smell of AXE and VS sprays only last for about 5 minutes, then mix with your sweat to produce a lovely B.O.
3. Be open minded
If you go out with a set mindset of what type of girl or guy you want, you’re basically setting yourself up for failure. While it’s good to have standards, you also can’t be too picky when it comes to a meet and fuck. That means that no one you meet is gonna be perfect, maybe you love redheads but meet a cute brunette instead — don’t miss out on a great opportunity to get laid just because she doesn’t have your preferred characteristics!
And girls, this same issue applies. You might have to settle for someone who’s a bit annoying or might not look like the dream boy you’d imagined, but if it’s only a one-night stand, don’t take it too seriously!
4. Flirt nicely
Being charming and sweet will get you farther than saying stuff like, “Nice ass baby!”
You get bonus points if you actually have a conversation with somebody before spitting game about how attractive you find them. Be sweet while also making it clear what you want, and let the rest unfold.
5. Don’t have a negative attitude
Even if you’re nice and you look good tonight, there’s still the chance you could get rejected. Don’t be that asshole that doesn’t handle rejection well. If she/he kindly declined, or even if they didn’t do it politely, you shouldn’t yell obscenities at them or be rude to them afterward. Just take the L and move on.
If you yell out at them calling them a bitch, guess who won’t want to talk to you, much less hook up with you anymore — everyone at the bar!
6. Don’t come on too strong
As I said, be gentle with your flirting. If you’re heavily pressuring someone to go home with you, it won’t work, and you shouldn’t be acting in that way in the first place because it’s predatory. Also, don’t make extremely sexual comments throughout the night to them or to your friends when you’re next to them. They’ll find it weird and likely walk away.
7. Don’t overdo physical contact
The worst thing you could do is to start rubbing up on or touching the person you want to hook up with in inappropriate ways. Save that for later.
If they express that they’re uncomfortable with the way you’re touching them, then stop. Placing a hand on their arm is okay, and lets them know you’re interested, but if you grab a woman’s ass or start touching a guy’s dick print, things could go badly.
The best thing to do to avoid a situation where you’re not sure if they’re okay with your physical contact is not to make any unless they outwardly welcome it.
8. Have confidence
Body language and energy is everything when meeting someone; you can usually tell what you’re getting into from the jump by these things. If you lack in confidence, it’s not going to make this person think they should go home with you because if you can’t flirt with them, how are you going to have good sex with them?
9. Ask for contact info
Make sure you get their number or their Snapchat, Instagram handle, anything to get in contact with them!
That way, even if you don’t get to go home with them that night for whatever reason, you have someone new to hit up for a hookup.